Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Being invisible vs. standing out

Recently two blogging friends have written about being invisible and not liking to be the center of attention. This is so me! I love wearing clothes that I love and some of them aren't "fashionable" and a bit eclectic... which causes me to stand out. I'm trying to get more comfortable in my own skin so I've been forcing myself to wear them in public and it hasn't been too bad. I get compliments on my PPP clothes that I wear. I just say thanks and move on. But I must say that I prefer to be invisible. But I do love sharing what Shauna of Poor Pitiful Pearl creates!






I struggle with being noticed though. I want to reach out to people, but being around people I don't know is stressful for me and drains my energy fast... I want to be friendly and social but I also want to be invisible and watch...I want to be my authentic self but I don't want to stand out or be the center of attention... I want to be liked but I want to be left alone too... I don't want to be left out but don't want to be included in everything either...I like observing and the freedom that being invisible brings but I also want to be a part of something.

I'm aware that there are several books out there now about how to live as an introvert in this very social world. I haven't read them yet, but they are on my wish list. I've always thought I could fake my way since that's what the world expects. It has only been in the last few years that I've come to recognize that God made me this way for a reason. I don't want to be something I'm not, but I also don't want to use it as an excuse. So I definitely believe there's a balance. That balance is what I'm seeking!
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  1. Wendy KiddOctober 30, 2012 at 5:05 PM

    I love these pictures of you and your outfits! You look just gorgeous.

    There is something inside you that just shines, Teri - it's hard for people not to notice and be drawn to you.

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  2. davidOctober 30, 2012 at 5:11 PM

    I am surprised the hens didn't flee when they saw those pants.

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    1. Teri HOctober 31, 2012 at 7:58 AM

      If only I could think of an appropriate response... =)

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  3. AnonymousOctober 30, 2012 at 9:26 PM

    Nice clothes, especially the top photo!

    I also am an extreme introvert. I love people, but also treasure my time alone. And I need a lot of solitude to charge my batteries.

    I've finally gotten comfortable knowing that I can be who I am and not worry about trying to fit everyone else's mold.

    Glad you are seeking a healthy balance. That's the key, I think. :)

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    1. Teri HOctober 31, 2012 at 7:58 AM

      I'm also realizing there are others out there like me!

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  4. Teri HOctober 31, 2012 at 7:59 AM

    Thank you! You know... "tough" is relative. It is tough and we are growing weary but it's nothing compared to those that have lost their homes from Sandy... So I'll be grateful.

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  5. Debra DickinsonOctober 31, 2012 at 11:19 AM

    This is SO me! I have shared numerous times that almost everything about me is a dichotomy - just like you're sharing in this post. It really is nice to know there are others. :) Thank you for sharing Teri.

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  6. Debbie B.November 19, 2012 at 4:08 PM

    Love your post. I too want to be included, but not too much. I will probably quote you on my blog. Well said. Isn't the internet wonderful. You can express your thoughts and know others feel the same...and it's ok!

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